My daughter and a good friend posted an article on Facebook today prompted by the current Supreme Court proceedings on redefining marriage written by a member of the Gospel Coalition advocating we take a stand against homosexuality. I agree with the overall premise of the article, but struggled with its tone. I wrote this response to my friend:
I do not want our country to make same-sex marriage equal to God's
clear design of marriage between a man and a woman. I have prayed for
God to break through with righteousness in the midst of the debates.
However, I disagree strongly with those who attack gay and lesbian people as uniquely sinful and beyond the reach of God's love and grace carried in His people to them. It seems to me the folks who
wrote this article elevate homosexuality above pride, lying, adultery,
divorce, alcoholism (drunkenness), obesity, (gluttony) and other sins
God also hates.
God's instruction to Israel to humble themselves and pray so He could heal their land, contains a principle I am applying and hoping in for
this season. It seems to me a call to prayer and humble grace-filled living, not a call to war within
the messed up Body of Christ, would be far more God-honoring and
I do not agree with this writer's application of "love
your neighbor as yourself." We MUST love and welcome sinners into our
homes and churches, exposing them to the truth of God in love, not
becoming their Holy Spirit, but inviting them to the best behaviors that
honor God and give them abundant life this side of heaven. If this
writer's approach is applied, it seems to me a homosexual would
experience judgement first and God's love through us second IF they
stayed around long enough to experience love. I don't advocate putting
practicing homosexuals in positions of leadership in the church, just as
I wouldn't want a person still controlled by alcohol in leadership. I
wouldn't want a man or woman in leadership who was abusing people, either. The focus on one sin over others grieves me. It is our natural tendency as humans, but we are called to view all things through the mind of Christ in us, the Holy Spirit.
I don't agree with everything I've
read by Rob Bell, yet he seems to be hated in this article. When a
believer is corrected, there is a process of one on one, then two or
three and THEN, if there is no repentance, they get treated like a sinner/tax gatherer (people Jesus
loves and hung out with to win them to His Father). I suspect that
process hasn't taken place with Rob Bell. He has been publicly decried and defamed by
Christians demonstrating to the world that Christians do not love well.
I wrestle often with what action to take in our country
where my voice counts in what we do and do not do. I choose to vote for candidates
that align with God's heart. Sadly there are fewer of those each
election. I express my opinion respectfully to those elected, whether my choice or not, on issues that
matter. I pray for God to win.
It is clear to me that as we move ever
closer to our Lord Jesus' return, we will experience much more of this
and will not be able to sway our country. We will still stand for
Christ, I just think the issue will not be what we think of
homosexuality, but it will be that we are
Christians who love God and
agree with what He teaches us.
A wise woman added this to the conversation on Facebook:
"A quote from Rick Warren reminds us that we have been cleverly set up to fail: 'Our
culture has accepted two huge lies. The first is that if you disagree
with someone's lifestyle, you must fear or hate them. The second is that
to love someone means that you agree with everything they believe or
do. Both are nonsense. You don't have to compromise convictions to be
So, in this cultural mindset of
"all-or-nothing"-"either you love 100% of everything about me or hate
100% of everything about me", we are instantly pegged as being haters,
accused of being "intolerant" and "homophobic", filled with hate speech,
with an all-or-nothing mentality of "if you don't love us and
everything we are, you hate us with everything you are." I don't need
to spell it out. We've all felt or heard it. It's a helpless feeling of feeling bullied and overpowered, people incorrectly putting words in
Our very lives will be hated, not only
our words. Our goodness and love will be hated and that is already
I think ultimately we need to address these cultural problems one
person at a time, as Holy Spirit directs. As the hearts of people are
won to Christ and His ways, one by one, the tide will turn. We need to
actually demonstrate God's grace and love to each person we meet and by
loving them in their mess, establish a way into their hearts for God's
truth to take root and transform them as He is transforming me.
Yours for transformed lives, one at a time...